It is not uncommon for parents of young children to wish their children would grow up faster and not need their parents quite as much, especially after his fourth public meltdown, or on her third consecutive nightmare interruption in a night. However, here’s presenting the biggest contradiction of them all: parents miss this connection when it’s gone. Mothers, especially those whose children have hit puberty or flown out of the nest, often feel the absence of this kind of connection much more acutely than others because they have understood how fleeting it is.
Most of motherhood that is glorified — the process of giving birth, breastfeeding, the sleepless nights — is visible. What if we say that this is only the tip of the iceberg? The invisible and infinitely more extensive workload frequently goes unseen by the world and is most often, the root cause of why mothers feel tired all the time. We call it the mental load and all mothers can relate.
In our country, talking about menopause is considered a stigma.
Your parents ask for you at their hour of need, how do you respond?
Third culture kid describes children who grow up in cultures other than those of their parents.
As I wrote in “Motherhood—the story of a transformed reader”, my essay for Daily Star Books on International Mother’s Day on
Maa, all the things I’ve been silent about are all the things that could’ve saved me.
Today is Mother’s Day and as we scramble to buy last minute gifts for all the mother figures in our lives, let us pause and ask ourselves frankly — at a time when postpartum depression is at its peak, workplaces are especially unforgiving to women who have just given birth, and the immediate family scene is replete with taunts about being a “good mother”, is an engraved pendant or a spa session enough to make mothers happy?
The scales will always lean in favour of the reality.
It is not uncommon for parents of young children to wish their children would grow up faster and not need their parents quite as much, especially after his fourth public meltdown, or on her third consecutive nightmare interruption in a night. However, here’s presenting the biggest contradiction of them all: parents miss this connection when it’s gone. Mothers, especially those whose children have hit puberty or flown out of the nest, often feel the absence of this kind of connection much more acutely than others because they have understood how fleeting it is.
Most of motherhood that is glorified — the process of giving birth, breastfeeding, the sleepless nights — is visible. What if we say that this is only the tip of the iceberg? The invisible and infinitely more extensive workload frequently goes unseen by the world and is most often, the root cause of why mothers feel tired all the time. We call it the mental load and all mothers can relate.
Your parents ask for you at their hour of need, how do you respond?
In our country, talking about menopause is considered a stigma.
Third culture kid describes children who grow up in cultures other than those of their parents.
As I wrote in “Motherhood—the story of a transformed reader”, my essay for Daily Star Books on International Mother’s Day on
Maa, all the things I’ve been silent about are all the things that could’ve saved me.
Today is Mother’s Day and as we scramble to buy last minute gifts for all the mother figures in our lives, let us pause and ask ourselves frankly — at a time when postpartum depression is at its peak, workplaces are especially unforgiving to women who have just given birth, and the immediate family scene is replete with taunts about being a “good mother”, is an engraved pendant or a spa session enough to make mothers happy?
The scales will always lean in favour of the reality.
Our generation's toxic obsession with having a cool mom.