Sisters over misters?
One destructive guy. Two fierce, infatuated best friends. A tinge of envy, a spoonful of passive aggressive insults, catfights, and a whole lot of drama. With friendship, hearts and countless embarrassing screenshots at stake, someone will end up wounded. We can only advise you on how to minimise the casualties.
Spill your guts
If you can fangirl over Dean Winchester together and co-execute wicked pranks on each other's exes, you can have a heart-to-heart with your best friend about sharing the same crush. You can't hold it against her of not being considerate towards your feelings when she isn't aware of their existence. Her special best friend telepathy powers might have gone a little scrawny since boy wonder overran her reveries. Spare her, for you too have been sailing the same ship. And if you are aware of the conditions of her heart, it's only fair she knows your bit too. Regardless of who saw him first and whose odds are slimmer, make sure you talk it out, girl to girl. And let's face it, you can only hold your sanity intact for so long without telling your BFF about your new crush.
Know when to bow out
Judge your own condition. Is it just his gorgeous jawline that entices you or is this the guy you would share your last slice of pizza with? When it's simply a miniscule crush, and your best friend is head over heels blindly smitten, be the bigger person and take a step back. Do your wingwoman duties and get the two hitched. That way you can ogle at that jawline more closely. There's no harm in admiring God's beautiful creations, if said BFF is okay with it of course. So it's a win-win.
No kiss list
Chick flicks, as cringe worthy and clichéd as they can be sometimes, teach you a whole lot about dealing with matters of the heart. If you've missed out on "Naomi and Ely's No Kiss List", it basically revolves around a list where best friends note down the guys who are off limits for the both, when they're equally interested. This way, when none of you can conquer him, you can sit by the bleachers and fangirl unitedly about his splendour or gobble chocolate ice cream together, sneering at every girl who so much as glances his way. And that's quality best friend bonding right there.
Make no room for jealousy
If boy wonder doesn't show interest in either of you, it might be depressing at the moment, but it's hallelujah for the long run. It only means there's no possibility of secretly hurting and being spiteful. But in the situation of one of you landing the guy, do make sure envy doesn't get the best of you and put you in a position of having to pick between your relationship and friendship. When things end up merry for you, give your best friend time to cope and make sure to her feel loved rather than rejected. And if things went downhill for you then give the happy couple your blessings. Jealousy isn't worth losing your partner in crime over.
No boy will listen to you jabber endlessly about the cute kid in homeroom, binge watch gossip girl with you the entire night or steal your ex's glasses just to mess with him. Whoever the guy is, whatever your decision maybe, I hope he's worth it.
Samin Sabah Islam is on a quest to find the perfect diet while simultaneously drooling over pizza. Throw her some tips at sabahsamin11@gmail.com