How to dodge intrusive questions from relatives this Eid
As someone who has received her fair share of intrusive questions from family members every Eid, I'm aware of the tension it can produce. Don't get me wrong – I love spending time with my family, but their insatiable curiosity can at times be exhausting, since it's not uncommon in our culture for relatives to inquire about your employment status, marriage plans, and even your weight.
These conversations, especially if you're still working things out, can sometimes elicit a slew of unpleasant emotions on a day that should be spent unwinding. These queries often come with an extra layer of skepticism, making us feel as though we are being judged or falling short of their expectations.
To avoid those uncomfortable conversations, try these excuses.
"I'm sorry, I can't hear you over the sound of this scrumptious Biryani!"
Everyone enjoys receiving compliments, especially when they are related to food. This excuse works nicely when someone starts prying into your personal affairs at the dining table while you were just trying to grab a bite. Just act as if you are so engrossed in the food that you are unable to focus on anything else.
To seem believable, add extra comments like "Yum," "I love this," and "Can I have some more?" It's a harmless, yet effective method to change the subject without upsetting anyone.
"Family photo time!"
Well done for avoiding trouble over lunch, but what about when everyone is finished and you're chilling in the living room? Imagine you're munching on your mother's delicious desserts while trying to avoid eye contact. The moment you lift your head, a nosy aunt or uncle smiles sweetly at you and opens their mouth to ask you something absolutely inappropriate. Turn it into a fun family activity - "Say cheese!"
Gather everyone around for a photo session, and don't stop at one selfie! You can't deny the joy of documenting family moments so you have something to share on social media later, even though your motives are far from innocent.
"I should go help out in the kitchen."
Simply excuse yourself from a conversation by telling your family members that you have to help with chores. This is not only a tried-and-true excuse, but it's also benevolent because, let's face it, the hostess usually does all of the work herself. If you have a reputation for laziness, however, they may raise an eyebrow, but they won't stop you. Plus, you could earn some brownie points (which you may have to settle with your cousins later).
So, during Eid, if you find yourself in an unpleasant conversation with your extended family, remember that it's okay to respectfully walk out of it or make U-turns as required. If none of the excuses work and you're feeling brave, try asking them some questions instead. It may end in a lovely conversation or a loaded cannon, but it's worth a shot.
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