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12:00 AM, September 24, 2020 / LAST MODIFIED: 12:39 AM, September 24, 2020

How to befriend an introvert

Introverts are their own kind of people. Their aloofness, need for privacy, and lack of verbose attempts might be off-putting for some. However, the mystique and enigma with which they tread along gets them attention they might not want. It can often be difficult to pierce through the invisible veil. Here are some tips to help you figure out how to respectfully win the friendship of an introvert, assuming you aren't one yourself.

Don't generalise

It is easy to assume that all introverts are shy, standoffish nerds who awkwardly sit in the farthest corner of a room. Introversion itself is a spectrum and you can't expect all of them to have identical social frequencies. Keep in mind that the person you are trying to develop a bond with is more than the ruminating, quiet,  distant image you have in your head.

Create a comfort zone

Comfort zone is the headspace in which one is relaxed and does not feel anxious even slightly. Introverts are their true selves and they flourish in comforting company. It is necessary that you smile at them (not creepily, just the appropriate amount). Have an open body language and keep your posture pointed toward them. Listen as they speak and do not try to be subtle about it. Tell them things about yourself, since it may help them ease into similar conversations, and let them know it is also okay if they do not want to share things in return.

Avoid situational conversations

Of course, this will not perpetually destroy your chances of bonding with the person, but it will also not make them remember you or seek out your company after that particular encounter. It may not be possible to always come up with intriguing topics, but you could merely ask for their suggestion on which movie to watch next, or make an unsolicited recommendation that you feel they might like.

Show care

If you have come along this far in this article to befriend an introvert, it is safe to assume you care about their wellbeing. Thus, if you hear they are sick or have gotten themselves in a pickle, voice your concern unabashedly. Some of them may be inept at expressing the heartfelt gratitude they feel, but will definitely make a mental note to keep you around.

Express genuine interest

Most introverts appreciate active participation as they can have a hard time approaching and befriending people they want to be friends with themselves. Assuming you want to be their friend, there must be something that draws you to them. Be respectful of their boundaries and pay heed to aspects about them that made you go through this in the first place. Similar interests always establish a solid foundation.

Before you choose to fret yourself over this, do not forget that if a friendship is meant to happen, it will, irrespective of if you are following certain steps or not.

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