Knowing a narcissist

It is interesting that it is hard to find a proper Bangla word that goes with the term 'Narcissistic', while it is such a vital topic in the world of 'personality'. This is a personality disorder that involves a pattern of self-centered, arrogant thinking and behaviour, a lack of kindness and consideration for others. They are self-centered and envy others, or believe others envy them. They believe that they are special and demand excessive admiration.

Well, sometimes we all may show some narcissistic traits, especially in cases of teenagers, as a part of their growth processes - they want attention, put their needs first, or think they are special. But most of the time, when we mature, educate ourselves and try to understand the meaning of life, most of us become sensible with others and admit our mistakes. But, this is not the case with people who have narcissistic personality disorder — they are excessively self-involved, and they disregard other people's needs and it may become harmful for society.

But what is about 'silent narcissist' or a 'covert narcissist'? As these characters often hide many of their typical signs and symptoms. They can also be destructive. They may appear to be shy and modest, but inside they are chronically envious of others, can't handle criticism, and lack kindness for others. Hidden narcissists may interrupt a conversation, may make dismissive remarks that will make some feel that their opinions do not matter.

A narcissist is actually an incredibly sad, unhappy and melancholic person and sooner or later hurts everyone who cares for them and is not able to control their behaviour. According to Social-Psychologists, people with strong narcissistic tendencies hate seeing others do well and they are chronically miserable people who desperately try to feel better by constantly managing their fragile and crooked sense of pride. These people are unable to feel genuine happiness because they lack a sense of genuine self and it is established that the 'true happiness' comes from within.

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