The unspoken heroes of our friend circles
Fret not; this isn't going to be like one of those 'Every type of friends in a group' kind of read. That analysis has outlived its lifespan. And while the various online quizzes might be fun to try out to some extent, I decided to shed some light on the role of a much underappreciated kind of friend in a group.
It's pretty safe to say that the host plays a different kind of role than the others in the circle. Be it a normal meeting for chattering, throwing a party or a sleepover, their house is like the headquarters and a hangout taking place there every other day is the usual scenario. Even when you can't think of anything to do and just want some good company but don't have an awful lot of friends because deep down even you know that you are a loner, the host is there to save the day. Their bedrooms bear witness to majority of the odd and crazy conversations that will give even the most antisocial of person the slightest of cringes.
YOU ARE ALWAYS WELCOME HERE!
The host's door is always open for you. You need not be worried about getting kicked out of the house for showing up unceremoniously. They will always greet you with joy and ecstasy (either that or they're really good at hiding their annoyance). You won't feel that much at home even at your relative's place.
THEY ARE THE GLUE THAT HOLDS IT TOGETHER!
Suppose you want to chill but don't have the money to hit a food corner. Enter the host, emerging like the phoenix from the ashes and making sure that all is well and good with this world by inviting everyone over at a moment's notice. Or that the damned scorching heat of the sun outside is making you think twice about going out to meet with friends, so y'all just decide to crash at that one place. Free Wi-Fi, a FIFA tournament and zero heat strokes, what more could you ask for. This place courts all the memories which will one day put a smile on your face when nostalgia creeps in.
THE UNOFFICIAL SANCTUM SANCTORUM!
Sure, every once in a while the whole group gets invited to come over at another friend's place and chill. But notice the word INVITED in there. That's something the host never has to do, everybody just keeps showing up at his/her place. And while the lack of etiquette might concern the elderly community, for the friend circle it's somewhat of an unspoken culture. And not everybody actually realises this until the day comes when the host decides to move out.
So to all the hosts out there, thank you! You make this miserable and rather lonely life worth living by welcoming us to a place where we can sit back to catch our breath for a minute and create some memories to cherish later on.
MD. Zamilur Rahman is a self-proclaimed ambivert, foodie and comic geek. So if you have enough money to treat him with kacchi and think that 'Martha' scene from 'Batman v Superman' makes sense, he will be interested to hang out with you. Connect with him at your own risk at shuvosanctum@gmail.com