Published on 02:16 PM, July 05, 2023

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7 ways parents can connect with children

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Parents hang the moon and pin the stars on the sky, according to their children. Being so important can be as much of a responsibility as it is a special pride and joy. Simply by doing these 7 things with children, parents can make a world of positive difference to their children's attitudes and behaviours.

Stop and Listen

Children are impulsive people and even little things can be a matter of great urgency and importance to them. Stop and listen to their concerns, even if they seem trivial to you. Little things turn into big things in no time, and parents want to keep the door open for communication. Bedtime is a great time to bond and have difficult conversations. And any time is a good time to drop down to their level, make eye contact and listen to their wild, wild stories.

Hugs and Cuddles

Hugs help massively with brain development, increase oxytocin and serotonin levels, improve social and emotional development for children and encourage healthy habits and behaviours. Kids that get more hugs and cuddles feel safer, are more resilient and are seen to be able to manage emotions better at a later age.

Family Life

It is a fast-paced world and there's no way around work. However, after-work-hours, spent at a slow pace, can work wonders to provide a child with warmth and stability. It inculcates the feeling of being valued, upholds the sanctity and closeness of a family unit and creates unforgettable memories. Not only this, it can also teach children to unwind and relax at the end of their own hectic day, rather than constantly stressing about work.

Reading Time

Reading together is easily one of the best ways to bond with children. Settling in with a good book is not only a great way to unwind, but it also tells children that the parent enjoys spending time with them. It sparks new conversations, builds creativity and can become an enjoyable ritual to look forward to for both parent and child.

Play Games

Each child is different and will enjoy different ways of passing time. Rather than opting for generic games like playing catch or with puzzles, play with what they enjoy and take their creativity to newer heights. You can do role-play, dress up, set up scavenger hunts and art projects, or even throw small, impromptu parties based on their interests.

Positive Affirmations

Parents love to see their child grow and succeed in life. In working towards such an outcome, they sometimes forget the sheer power that verbal encouragement and positive affirmations can have on their children. When they hear from their parents, that they are brave, and kind, and lovable human beings, they thrive differently. So don't hold back on telling your children, repeatedly, how loved they are, and how proud you are of them.

Tell Them the Truth

Parents are only human and quite capable of making mistakes. Instead of covering these up as lies, it is more prudent to credit children for their resilience and share your shortcomings with them (age-appropriately, of course). This makes them feel respected and valued, and help avoid broken expectations later on in life. It is also known to make children more forgiving in the long run and generally less scared to make and accept their own mistakes.