The dangers of being ‘taken for granted’

A recent study in England found that married people were 14% more likely to survive after a heart attack and they were able to leave the hospital two days' sooner than single people having a heart attack.

Some experts also believe that married people have fewer strokes, survive a major operation more often and a lower chance of becoming depressed. But these results raise an another question! Can we in general assume that those were not 'unhappy marriages'? And here comes an important query about the worth of contented environment inside a 'married family house'! Although we cannot say with assurance that a wedded life under one roof is the only reason for that benefit; but we can assume that there is a link between healthy marriage and better health outcomes after a heart attack or stroke.

So, let's find out 5 most common culprits that ruin a good relationship/marriage.

1. Bad and unscrupulous habits of parents/spouse — sometimes we do not understand our bad habits as we usually hate self-criticism. Here comes, the age-old saying 'Everything begins at home'.

2. Disrespecting each other irrespective of their worthiness can procure feelings of hurt, cynicism and overall insecurities which can be hurdles to getting a calm relationship back on track.

3. Faithlessness and sometimes critical adultery is a grave situation which determines whether the relationship will survive or not. Even if it exists, life will be most uncomfortable with miseries.

4. It is said that 'Money is a bad master but good servant'. And as a master, money can divide couples, especially when one has a different approach to spending than the other. Conflicting views on expenditure is risky especially if one is a spender and the other is a saver. In many cases couples have little control over their earnings/finances and it's important to have sacrificing attitude and working out the real priority.

5. Most probably 'taking the partner for granted', would be the greatest problematic issue in a marriage. It is the most common attitude a spouse can have that leads a marriage down the path to unhappiness throughout their married life. Especially at some point after the "passionate love stage" has ended, it is a miserable human nature to start taking each other for granted.

Please remember the following saying about the dangers in taking one's spouse for granted: "You do not know what you have got until it's gone. The truth is — you knew exactly what you had. You just did not think that you were going to lose it".

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