I am a candidate for the January 2004 O'Level exams. I have
a cousin staying over at my house who I don't like and with
whom I don't get along. He always argues with me, ganging
up on me with my other cousins. I get very frustrated and
feel humiliated. I'm just waiting for him to leave, but
what do I do until then and what if he never leaves?
I do not understand what you mean by “if he never leaves”.
Has he come to stay permanently? If that is the case then
you must try to accommodate because he must be having some
compelling reason. If this is short term then you must try
to identify the reason for his strange behaviour. Perhaps
he has some problem and needs compassion from you. He might
be letting out some frustration by ganging up against you.
I think you might be able to solve a part of the problem
by trying to get to the bottom of it.
I am 25 years old, running a motor parts shop in Chittagong.
I have a bad habit of calling up unknown numbers. If a young
woman happens to respond to me warmly I try to form a relationship
with her. I have many such friends who I have never seen.
Recently, I have been talking to a girl from a rather aristocratic
family. She is an only child and her father lives in the
US. From what I could tell from the phone conversations
we've had, she's quite smart and I think she must also be
very beautiful. We've talked a lot and now she's very curious
about me and wants to meet me. But I'm not very good-looking
and am afraid of meeting her because I think I'm in love
with her and don't want her to be turned off after seeing
me. What should I do?
You are 25, already a young adult and have to take responsibility
for your actions. You know little about this girl, such
as her age, level of maturity, family, etc. It is not very
rational of you to fall in love with her and expect her
to reciprocate. Your looks might not be the only reason
for her to say no. Perhaps she is a teenager who is just
curious about you. She has not made any commitment to have
a serious relationship. If you do meet her then you might
want to think of the above.
I'm a student of JU. I used to love a girl who I was supposed
to marry after graduating. But I heard recently, from reliable
sources, that she is now in love with another guy who has
completed his MBA and owns a lot of property. She is supposedly
pressuring him to marry her soon. We haven't been in touch
for about a year after a misunderstanding took place between
us. But I didn't think she would act like this after that.
I am mentally very disturbed and can't study even though
my final exams are drawing near. I want to cause her a lot
of distress but don't know how. Do you have any ideas?
I have no idea how you can cause her distress nor do I support
it. However harsh, this is a reality you have to face. If
she has chosen someone over you then you will just have
to accept it gracefully and with dignity. Whatever might
be the reason, she has the right to choose and there is
nothing you can do. However, since you have only heard from
some source you should verify it personally. Moreover, one
year is a long time and much can happen during that time.
You should now start to think positive and get over this
as soon as possible.