Dear
Mita,
I'm a 23-year-old man. I want to get married after finishing
my studies. Though many of my female friends try to draw
my attention, I don't want to get into these things right
now because they might hamper my studies. But my friends
say I should choose someone now, otherwise by the time I'm
ready, all the good girls will be taken. What do you think
I should do?
--NU
Dear
NU,
The important thing is to meet the right person whether
now or later. Please do not worry about the “good girls
being taken away.” You will surely find the person at the
right time. Meanwhile, although it is good to concentrate
on your studies, it should not prevent you from having good,
healthy relationships with girls.
Dear
Mita,
I'm a third year student of Mathematics at Jahangirnagar
University. I love one of my cousins who also loves me.
The problem is, she's a year older than me as well as a
year senior to me academically. Our guardians don't know
about our relationship and she believes they will never
accept it. She is currently waiting for her Honours results
and they are pressuring her to get married but she has cleverly
avoided a number of good proposals. She wants us to elope
and marry but I'm a little hesitant. What should I do?
--Tension
Dear
Tension,
One can elope, but it is better to do so after exhausting
all other options. Parents have some normal expectations
from their children and it is cruel to disappoint them.
Try to reason with them and explain that this is what you
both want. What you want to do is a little different and
challenges accepted norms. Well, you must be bold enough
to face the consequences and not run away at the first opportunity.
If you both are really serious then you will surely prevail
and win in the end.
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