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Dear Mita,
I'm a 16-year-old girl. I was involved in a very deep relationship with a fellow mate of mine. We were best friends as well as lovers. A few days ago he did something that has really broken my trust in him deeply hurt my feelings. I feel like someone has cut my heart out and thrown it into the bin. Everyone is saying what he did wasn't a big deal and that I should give him another chance but it was a mammoth misdeed to me. He has done similar things in the past and every time I gave him a chance to rectify himself. I loved him, still do and will forever but I think he should learn a lesson and so I broke up with him. Every day I pretend to be happy without him, I smile and enjoy being single but each night I cry my heart out thinking of how he broke my heart. I have never felt so bad about being ugly before this instance. I really have no idea what I should do. Should I give him another chance? At times he really did things for me which made me believe that his love was true. At least I truly love him. Please help me.
Heart Broken Fairy

Dear Heart Broken,
You are still very young and have plenty of time to get into serious relationships. If he has done something to disappoint you so badly you should give it more time and not get back with him so quickly. It will give you an opportunity to analyse your relationship with him and decide if you want to continue or not. Meanwhile, you have things to do such as study and enjoy your time with friends and family.

Dear Mita,
I am a 19-year-old woman in my first year of university. I have fallen in love with one of my lecturers. He's a wonderful teacher, very knowledgeable, articulate and dedicated to his profession. On top of all that, he's quite good-looking, young and eligible. My whole interest in my studies and university life now revolves around him; I wait every day for a glimpse of him and I feel like flying if he ever speaks to me. It might be an infatuation, but right now it feels like love and I don't know what to do about it. Help!

Dear Awed,
You are not the first person to fall in love with a teacher. This is very common among girls your age. I thing it is infatuation and there is really nothing wrong in it. Unless you take it to an extreme situation such as demanding his attention, etc., I believe it is pretty harmless. Make sure this is not too distracting and that you do not start to neglect your studies in the process.

Dear Mita,
I passed my HSC exams in 2007. I was unable to continue my studies after that for personal reasons. I want to do so now. I want to go abroad for higher studies. I got 3.69 in my SSC and 4 in my HSC. I am preparing for my IELTS exams. Is it possible to resume my studies? How should I go about it?

Dear H,
I am afraid I am not the right person to advise you on this. Please talk to a high school teacher or someone who has started studying again after a gap. However, I don't think you should have a problem continuing your education.


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