Dear
Mita,
I am a student of JU of the English department. I am a shy boy
and do not have any female friends. Some of the girls on campus
make fun of me because of this. They even insult me in public,
calling me names like "Babu", meaning baby. What should
I do to avoid them?
F
Dear
F,
It is first important for you to have friends, male or female.
Many young people are shy when they come in contact with girls,
this is not abnormal or unnatural. You will get over this as
you gain in confidence. Developing confidence is a process that
has to be worked at. Getting good grades gives confidence as
does other kinds of extra curricular activities such as debates,
sports etc. These girls will stop calling you babu and will
rather seek your company someday.
Dear
Mita,
I am a student of Notre Dame College. This year I will sit for
my HSC exam. But I am a little tense about it. I scored about
90 percent marks in physics in my college test. But the marks
from the model test is only 40-60 percent of my total marks.
Therefore, it seems that I will not be able to score more than
80 percent in my HSC exam. I also want to get myself admitted
into Engineering University. But it will be very difficult for
me to get admission if my mark is below 80 percent. This problem
is not in physics but all subjects. Could you help me?
Tensed
Dear
Tensed,
All students are tense before exams. The only way to overcome
this is by studying hard and building confidence that you can
do it. Just because you got less than expected grades in the
model test does not mean that you cannot score better in the
actual exams. Remember there is nothing one cannot achieve through
hard work and determination.
Dear
Mita,
I'm a 20-year-old 1st Year student of Geography at Dhaka University.
My first day there, I caught sight of a handsome young man.
I later came to know that he was a newly-appointed bachelor
teacher. I fell madly in love with him at first sight. A few
days later, I approached him, trying to make him understand
my feelings through physical gestures and that I wanted a serious
relationship. But he did not respond. Later I told him outright
about my feelings. He turned me down at once and has been trying
to avoid me ever since. I can't think of anyone but him and
think he is the right person for me. I can't concentrate on
my studies though my final exams are coming up. I don't want
my life to be ruined, but I'm extremely frustrated over this.
What should I do?
Frustrated
Dear
Frustrated,
I will have to tell you outright that you are being immature
and childish. First of all, why should you expect a response
from person who does not know you at all. Just because you have
fallen in love does not mean that he is obliged to do the same.
Secondly, a teacher has to be careful how he interacts with
students. He has come to teach and not to have love affairs
with students. This sets a bad precedent and affects the learning
environment and should be discouraged at all costs. Please remember
that your life will not be ruined as this is just an infatuation
and nothing else.