The flower blooms forever
the crying of a child in pain ever make a parent happy?
A close friend, then by his cancer-struck son's bedside in
America, had emailed thus: 'Today he cried out loud. I have
never been so happy in my life to see him cry.' His son, an
energetic bright spark at 14, had been unconscious for several
days before that poignant moment. In the child-parent relationship
the medium of contact hardly matters.
one find the right words for a child in such pain? Silence
seems so unbearable to the unaffected.
kindly visitor struggled with what to say until he saw a new
computer game by his hospital bedside: 'Aren't you lucky?'
The child looked back at the visitor and said: ' I have cancer
and you say I am lucky?'
few days later he died. Silence can be unbearable.
we answer the questions of bereaved parents who do everything
to cling on to a child?
did he have to leave at such an early age? Why after he loved
others so much and was loved by others so deeply? Why after
he did everything in his power to help others and ease the
suffering of others? Why after he continued to achieve brilliant
academic results even with the life-threatening disease? Why
after all the excruciating pain he had gone through for no
fault of his own? Why after his own family, hundreds of his
relatives, friends and well-wishers, irrespective of cast,
creed or religion, prayed so ardently to the Almighty for
his recovery? Why after he himself prayed to Allah subhanu
wa ta'ala so regularly, humbly, and passionately, making total
submission to His will?'
is for the parents to find the answer. They are blessed with
those of us who believe in the Almighty, there is only one
answer to these innumerable questions, and that is the Omnipotent
does what He thinks is best for us.' Mosabbir Hossain Khan
died on 2 April 2003 at the tender age of 17 years 7 months
are human. Part of being a parent also means an almost constant
tussle with what a child should be doing. He may insist on
a new recipe when Mom has her hands full in the kitchen. He
may want you to go shopping for a mouse when you have a report
to file. He may want this for his computer and that for his
bike, when you think he should study for his exams. He may
stay up late browsing on the Internet and that definitely
calls for a big yell in the morning.
fear of not growing up to fit into the social icon, parents
do not give in to every demand (as different from need) of
a child. Only we never ever stop to think that one day he
may demand no more.
as their parents called him, was no different from any other
of his age. His childlike insistence, his whims (Oh how very
insignificant can they be!) and his achievements help build
that special bond between child and parents.
there any solace for the parents?
the words of his father, a freedom fighter, who escaped to
Dhaka from the Pakistan Military Academy during the War of
Liberation, and mother: 'There was a rose in our garden, which
was only half blossomed. We were all stunned at its magnificent
beauty, smelled its intoxicating fragrance and wished to continue
smell it. God having noticed our craving, decided to appreciate
its beauty and smell the fragrance Himself. He therefore took
it nearer to Him.'
memory of their beloved son's 'strong faith in Almighty Allah
and his deep concern and love for humanity', Lt. Col. Mudassir
Hossain Khan (Retd) Bir Pratik and his wife Mustari have with
the help of their family, eminent advisers and consultants
established the Mosabbir Cancer Care Centre.
CANCER CARE CENTRE (MCCC)
Memorial Foundation aims at creating services and facilities
in health, food, education and other socioeconomic sectors
for millions of people deprived of these basic birthrights,
particularly the children.
Cancer Care Centre (House 37/1, Road 3, Dhanmondi R/A, Dhaka-1205)
is one such project established to provide care, comfort and
best available treatment to patients suffering the dreadful
an accommodation facility of MCCC at Dhanmondi for paediatric
cancer patients and their attending guardians, started operating
from April 2004. It caters to cancer patients who cannot afford
to have accommodation in Dhaka during the course of their
treatment. The patients are taken care of by doctors and nurses
of MCCC during their stay at Proshanti.
Cancer is a word that is no less traumatising than the disease
itself. Cancer takes its toll in the form of physical, emotional,
psychological, financial and social devastation. The process
starts from the moment one is suspected of cancer and continues
through the different stages of diagnosis, treatment and ensuing
complications till the moment when the disease triumphs over
been established to dedicate its service through providing
emotional support, information, and practical help to people
with cancer and their loved ones. It is a non-profitable,
philanthropic organisation, devoted to offering professional
services nationwide through its counselling, helpline support
and awareness building programmes, office-based services,
as well as patient care in the form of diagnoses, consultation
and treatment. All services are provided at a subsidised rate
and are available to people of all ages, with all types of
cancer, at any stage of the disease. Mosabbir Cancer Care
Centre's reach, including its cancer awareness initiatives,
extends also to family members, caregivers and professionals.
SITUATION IN BANGLADESH
At present, there are over one million registered cancer patients
in Bangladesh with at least another fifty percent more cases
undiagnosed. Every year another additional 200,000 people
are diagnosed with cancer. Most alarmingly, this number is
increasing in an exponential manner due to causes like increasing
population, disproportionate rise in geriatric number, changing
lifestyle and environmental pollution.
the National Institute of Cancer Research & Hospital at
Mohakhali, Dhaka is the only government institution of its
kind. With accommodation for 50 patients it can also provide
chemotherapy to 60 more outpatients and radiotherapy to 120
patients daily. These facilities, however commendable, are
nowhere close to the requirements and are far less than adequate.
private sector, the Ahsania Mission Cancer Hospital and the
Delta Oncology Centre provide diagnostic facilities and treatment
in the form of chemotherapy, radiotherapy, and reconstructive
surgery. The services however are still inadequate in the
context of increasing cancer patient pool in the country.
Inadequacy of treatment at home is one big reason why every
year almost 35% of our cancer patients go to the neighbouring
country for treatment.
SERVICES (PHASE I OF PROJECT):
People and their families dealing with cancer diagnoses often
need professional counselling, individually or through professionally
facilitated support groups, for emotional support, assistance
in coping with treatment and side effects, home and hospital
care, transportation to and from treatment, pain management,
financial assistance, understanding and interacting with the
doctor, nurse or other healthcare providers, and guidance
to resources for better health management.
MCCC's in-house oncology specialists provide consultation
regarding diagnoses, disease prognosis and treatment options.
The treatment plan provided follows the ICC protocols and
the subsequent implementation of the treatment plan is carried
out through collaboration between the day-care chemotherapy
unit and specialised centres for surgery and radiotherapy.
The consultants also follow up the subsequent programme of
Cancer can have a devastating impact on a person, particularly
because costs related to transportation, accommodation, pain
medication, childcare, and homecare can be overwhelming for
the patient and his loved ones. Whether the patient is from
a small rural town or a large urban area, MCCC can help find
resources in the community, the region and globally, contact
a Social Worker, browse Internet links for a variety of cancer
related topics and types of cancer, and cancer hospitals.
People new to the cancer experience can get help making treatment
decisions, understanding the effects of treatment, finding
treatment centres and doctors, participating in clinical trials
of new treatments, supporting a friend or loved one with cancer,
and talking about cancer with friends and others.
Treatment may affect a patient's life in many ways. MCCC can
help one cope with side effects of treatment, feel good about
one's appearance, and get information on financial and legal
issues, and track side effects and doctor appointments.
Patients can learn how to maintain health, discover how to
share the experience to help other patients, and find out
how to get involved in the fight against cancer.
may be sent to Mosabbir Cancer Care Centre Account No: 01-2346168-02,
Standard Chartered Bank, Dhaka.
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