The Lost and Found Personality
Laughing so hard that my facial muscles hurt and then waiting to lose myself in a melody and simply reflect on life. This is what I want. I am an extrovert and an introvert at the same time. So I wondered, "How can I be both?"
An introvert, who are quite often mistaken for being shy, tend to be preoccupied with their own thoughts and feelings and minimise their contact with other people. On the contrary, an extrovert is a friendly person who enjoys talking to and being with other people.
If you think you can relate to both like I can – congratulations, you're an "ambivert"!
Social psychologists and behavioural scientists are now saying that introversion and extroversion belong to a spectrum and are defining an ambivert as a person having characteristics of both extrovert and introvert.
You like to hang around a certain self-approved group. However, you only show interest when you find the subject of conversation considerably fascinating but as soon as that's over - you land right back in la-la land. Plainly, the attention span is the size of a small ruler. Then there's the factor of a right number of people in your group. Too many people may exhaust you, too few may bore you. Plus, when it comes to meeting new people – hello, awkwardness! The level of uncomfortable-ness just reaches the sky. And small talk? Ain't no ambivert got time for that.
Moreover, it seems like you have a sort of split personality. You appear to have days of high and low.
On the dreaded low day, you'll spend a lot of time thinking, which will cover an oversized range. To how your friend makes that weird expression when she's confused to the path your life is taking you on. Consequently, you'll find your friends complaining that you zone out from time to time. As offensive as it seems there isn't much you can do about it, you are who you are. What's more, you'll be ready to put on your headphones, even in the busiest of rooms and almost certainly you'll be spotted with a phone in your hand, scrolling away. You might be labeled as the nerd type or the anti-social but what they don't know is that you have an untamed version too.
This version can be brought to life on your high day when you will be bursting with energy, laughing unlike the truly miserable person you were yesterday and sing your heart out, maybe even dance till you're breathless. You'll seize the day with your beaming confidence, being absolutely spontaneous. Your intuitive nature will definitely reward you and without a doubt, you'll be the life of the party.
You see, being an ambivert means that you have the best of both worlds. You have two of the glorious character strengths. So embrace your awkwardness, be the quiet one and then carpe diem – seize the day with your contagious enthusiasm.
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