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Personality means the characteristics and appearance of a person -- his thoughts, feeling, behaviour, communication ability and physical features. A child inherits many personality traits from its parents. The personality of a person takes its basic formation during early childhood. A child's experiences in the family and the society are very crucial.
Friends, teachers and the environment of the school have their own positive or negative impact. Parents need to be very careful while rearing a child. To develop positive thinking in the child, they must relate to each other in a positive way. Parents simply can't deny the fact that they have to learn this to teach their children to make them fit for the 21st century.
Previously, it was thought that every person lived his or her whole life according to the personality script written in childhood. To change was almost impossible. But after years of research and practical applications the view has changed. With the help of simple methods anybody can develop a winning personality and change his or her future.
A few years ago parents rarely gave any importance to personality development of their children. Emphasis was given only on physical appearance and expertise in work. But now the time has changed, even in Bangladesh. It is an age of competition and economic revolution. To reach the goal of vision 2020, we have to implant the seeds of personality development in our young generation right from their boy/girlhood, which will pay off tremendously in their future life.
With the help of good training a child or an adult can learn communication skills, different subjects, driving or computer operating. Similarly, training in personality development enhances the general as well as unique traits (characteristics which differentiate one from others) of a person. A teacher of personality development helps a person to get positive thought pattern, gain confidence, improve behaviour, learn better communication and develop a healthy physique.
Many people still think that personality is related to the physical appearance of a person. If a person is well-built and wearing a good dress it is said that he/she has a good personality. But this is not a rational approach. In case the inner personality of a person is weak he/she will lose impact as soon as he/she speaks or acts. Such a person fails to create a lasting impression on others, and rising in his/her career becomes a very difficult task. Therefore, both the inner and the outer personality of a person should be strengthened.
Now the million-dollar question is how to brush up on your personality so that people say: "Here goes a person with personality!"
Try these simple but highly effective tips:
-Set an aim in life:
If you sit in the boat of life without knowing your destination you will become the slave of circumstances and other people. Your progress or development will totally depend on your luck. To change this scenario you need to set an aim for your life. It is true that a person has several aims in life but to decide the chief aim is essential to make good progress. When you have an aim it is like a destination -- you can chart your route, plan your action and formulate strategies to reach there quickly.
-Power of knowledge:
Knowledge is power. Nobody is impressed with a person who doesn't even know what is happening in the world. He is considered a fool whom no wise man or woman would like to befriend or follow. Therefore, it is necessary to enrich your general knowledge, and you should be the master of the field in which you are working. To update your general knowledge: a) read newspaper, b) watch informative programmes on TV, c) read good and popular books, d) interact (interrelate, communicate) with intelligent persons.
A look of confidence on your face impresses everybody. If you walk with a feeling of failure and frustration on your face people will simply avoid you. Even if you are facing difficulties and worries in your life, you must know how to think and look positive. Shake hands with others firmly. While shaking hands or talking make eye contact with others and don't forget to wear a smile!
-Speak in style:
Most of the successful persons maintain a unique style in speaking. They speak clearly and forcefully. Be careful that you have a good command on the language you speak. Don't make grammatical mistakes else you may become a laughing stock. If necessary take training from a good teacher. Give extra care to your pronunciation. Speaking power is an essential trait of any good personality.
A smartly dressed person is admired everywhere. By observing successful people in any field, you will come to the conclusion that most of the successful persons in almost every field have a keen taste for good dresses. Good dresses also prove a stimulus for the wearer. He/she feels more confident and relaxed.
-A healthy body:
A body burdened with disease may get pity of others but it is very difficult for that person to maintain an attractive personality. A healthy and smart look is absolutely essential to attract others. And if you work on it you can easily attain it. Take exercise regularly, play games or go for a morning walk -- whatever suits your body and psychology. Eat a balanced diet.
A man is generally a creature of his habits. With bad habits you may become a sheer nuisance for others. Then how will you impress them? Cleanliness, punctuality, completing your work on time, fulfilling your promises, having sincerity and dedication to work, listening to other people with empathy, keeping yourself away from smoking and drinking are the habits which add sparkle and dynamism to your personality. They endear you to people.
Last but not the least, you are what you think you are…so, think big and live big!
Khandaker Zia Hasan is an English language teacher of a diplomatic mission. Email: firstname.lastname@example.org