I am a very trusting person. This has proved to be a major
problem at the marketplace where shopkeepers easily sweet-talk
me into buying things that turn out to be defective. The same
thing happened again recently when I went to buy a cartridge
for my printer. I have started hating my own race and country.
What should I do?
Often trusting people get cheated, but that does not mean
that one should start hating everyone. There are good and
bad people everywhere and unfortunately you have come in contact
with the bad ones. Please take some time to think about all
the good things that have happened to you. Think about the
number of times you have been rewarded because you decided
to trust. The best way to survive in these situations is to
remember the pleasant experiences and overlook the unpleasant
I'm a student of BBA in a private university in Dhaka. For
the past two months, I've been having problems with my father
as he is almost pressurising me to take up some of his business
responsibilities. But I have only begun my second year and
it is difficult enough as it is dealing with my studies and
my own personal life. I've become almost abnormal and am very
frustrated nowadays! At times, many undesirable thoughts come
to mind. Can you please give me some advice?
Please calm down and avoid getting so agitated. Your father
thinks that if you take some responsibilities from now it
will help you later to take care of the family business. You
must explain to him how tough it is to study and do well in
the BBA course. Try to involve him in your studies and academics-related
work. Also discuss this with other family members or a friend
that he particularly trusts. I am sure you will be able to
solve this problem and at the same time make your father proud
My friend studies at a private university. Recently, a new
teacher has joined and she has classes with him. My friend
is a very open-minded, fun person. She was on good terms with
the teacher from the beginning. One day he asked her about
her family but she didn't suspect anything. The next day he
called her and told her he loved her. My friend was astonished.
She is not interested in having a relationship with a teacher
and she told him just as much. But the teacher said he would
wait for her and that he was qualified enough to marry her.
He wanted to talk to her family. Now my friend is afraid that
if she refuses him, he might fail her in the course. She is
also afraid that her family might agree as the teacher is
qualified. What should my friend do?
Your friend should definitely tell this teacher that she does
not love him and has no intention to marry him. There is no
need to be afraid of him. He cannot just fail her if he wants
to. If he stoops to that then your friend has enough grounds
to get him into a lot of trouble. Any teacher who will coerce
a student to marry him is not good enough to be married to
nor can he be a good friend. Please advise your friend not
to be intimidated just because he is a teacher. I know that
in certain circumstances romance blossoms between teachers
and students. However, this should be highly discouraged.
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