I am a first year student of ICAB. My father is very poor
and had to sell his land to pay for my education previously.
My parents are no longer able to pay my education expenses
and are pressuring me to get married in order to obtain financial
support. I told them that I intend to get married only after
finishing my course, which will take another two years, but
they are not agreeing with me. I want to remain free of all
bonds until I have completed my education. Please suggest
You are right in your decision. One should not get married
to obtain financial support; it can only end in misery and
frustration. Explain to your parents that it is only a matter
of two years after which you will be free and that you should
be supported during that time. You should also think of taking
up private tuition to fund your studies or take a loan if
I am a student of Class 7 at Ideal School. I am an honest
and sober boy and am not very stylish. I hate flirting with
girls, which most of my friends do. But sometimes, when I'm
out where there are young girls with their mothers, if I make
even accidental eye contact with the girls, their mothers
glare at me. I don't even get a chance to tell them that I'm
not looking at their daughters. I've been in this situation
several times and been very embarrassed. How can I avoid this?
Please help me.
Please do not be overly concerned about this. You must
go about your business and not allow such things to bother
you. Mothers are sometimes overly possessive about their daughters
and this is more their problem than yours. There is no need
for you to explain, as many boys your age must be facing similar
I am a third year English student of DU. I am in love with
my cousin who is in her first year in college. She is very
unpredictable and I can't understand her attitude. We have
spent many warm times together, but after each one, she closes
up and remains cold and reserved for days. When she recovers
after some days, we go back to being normal. I used to call
her "bou" (meaning wife), but recently she has asked
me not to. I don't know what her problem is. Is she immature
or suffering from a moral dilemma regarding relationships
between cousins? Help me.
I do not think calling her "bou" at this point
is such a good idea. You should have a good heart-to-heart
talk with her. She might be confused, which is also natural
as she is still quite young. Having a relationship with a
cousin is not such a good idea; however, if it is serious
and strong then there is nothing much one can do about it.
Make sure that both of you understand each other before taking
any serious, long-term decision.
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